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1. You can meet more people online than you could ever hope to meet in a local
bar or nightclub.
2. Everyone on an online dating site is there for the same reason - to meet new people and maybe find a date!
3. You do not have to dress up to date online - you can do it when you want, where you want, even in your pyjamas if you
like!
4. Online dating is a great way to get to know people at your own pace.
5. You have the opportunity to really showl yourself and get your personality across how you want to.
6. Online dating allows you to make sure you are looking your best and you don't have to feel nervous about how you
appear to potential dates.
7. Different communication ways give you a chance to interact with your potential date in a way you are comfortable with
and really get to know them.
8. Online dating is safe and secure.
9. Online dating is fun! Where else can you chat with numerous prospective dates and see who takes your fancy?
10. Online dating really does work! Literally thousands of people all around you have tried and been successful dating
online and are really glad they gave it a try!
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You might know her as the lovely (and brave) cohost of MTV's Loveline or from her current role on The Job, but this actress also has some hilarious secrets on friendship that she shares in her new book The Girl Code. Check out these five must-read dating rules before you go out on your next date - or send them to your favorite single friend! She'll thank you for it!
The Ugly Underwear Rule
If you really want to hook up on a first date, wear your ugliest underwear. Inevitably, you'll hook up.
The Unshaven Legs Rule
If you apply this and the ugly underwear rule at the same time, you'll probably marry the guy.
R.K.
When the date is over and you think you like him but you're still not exactly sure, a little recreational kissing probably won't hurt him or you. And…it may help answer that question of whether you're interested.
I.R.K.
Irresponsible Recretional Kissing is when you make out with him because you foolishly think you have to or when you already know you're not interested and just aren't mature enough to say so.
Pick Up After Yourself
If a girlfriend was kind enough to loan you an outfit for this important evening out, make sure you dry-clean it immediately. Don't keep it, thinking you have some nostalgic right to adopt it. Return it – cleaned – by next weekend, or you could karmicly damage the date you just had. (Not really, but return her damn clothes anyway.)
If you want to inject a little romance or spontaneity into a date, without breaking the bank, try following some of these ideas. You might just surprise yourself - and your partner!
1. Hike to the top of a mountain for a picnic.
2. Take a rowboat out on a lake at sunset.
3. Go up to the top of a building in a large city and take in the view.
4. Dress for a formal party, and then walk down the streets singing love songs.
5. Find a dark, romantic bistro with great coffees and desserts, or an independent book store that encourages browsing.
6. Find a rarely-used corner deep in the stacks of your library. Blow the dust off some musty old volume and read it aloud together. Steal a few hot kisses.
7. Pretend you've just won the lottery. "Shop" for your dream furnishings in elegant craft galleries, jewellery stores, and similar shops.
8. Test drive a sports car together.
9. Visit a specialty food factory such as a chocolate factory.
10. Browse a ritzy museum, gift shop or art gallery.
11. Drive along the outer borders of your city or county, exploring new neighbourhoods and villages where you've never been.
12. Ride a city's entire public rail transit system, going out on remote branch lines, just for the heck of it.
13. Spend the whole evening dressed and acting as characters from a play, movie, or book that you both enjoyed.
14. Speak only gibberish and let your thoughts be understood from your emotions, gestures, and tone.
15. Explore a wild and scenic place you've always wanted to check out.
16. Walk around celebrity neighbourhoods, looking for glimpses of the rich and famous.
17. Do something completely out of character--something you ordinarily wouldn't be caught dead even thinking about.
18. Go explore a local flea market one Saturday.
19. Get a guide book for your city. See you area through the eyes of tourists. You will be amazed at all the attractions that are hidden nearby.
20. Star gazing - Get a book on constellations and watch the stars. This can be especially fun during a meteor shower.
Ideas for Girls:
1. Go rollerblading. If you know how to rollerblade and he doesn't, teach him. If he knows and you don't, let him teach you. This date is great for breaking the ice because both of you will embarrass yourselves so much that you won't help but be able to laugh. Your true personalities will show.
2. Go for a walk, maybe some coffee after. It seems simple enough, but you'd be surprised about what you'd find out about someone if you'd just give them a chance to tell you. Besides, there's nothing like the ambiance of a great, romantic cafe to get you in the mood.
Ideas for Guys:
1. There's nothing like a good picnic. You can't argue with a classic.
2. Go to see the planes take off. This may be a little difficult, but sometimes there are little nooks and crannies by the highways and roads off of the runways. You can lie down on top of the hood of the car or lay a blanket on the ground and watch as the planes fly right over your head.
3. Plan a romantic evening with chocolate covered strawberries and slow music. Find some of her favourite songs and compile them onto one cassette and play them while you feed her strawberries.
Seasonal Ideas:
Winter Ideas
1. Make a lunch or dinner of hot soup and rolls together and set the table with candles. Play your favourite music.
2. Have an indoor picnic -- lay out a blanket and bring a picnic basket -- just have it on your living room floor!
3. Build a fire and roast marshmallows. If you don't have a fireplace, build a small safe campfire outside. Be sure to put it out completely when you're done and before leaving the area.
4. Build a snow fort together.
5. Surprise your date with "Summer in a Bag!" Get creative: Gather together 2 pairs of sunglasses, coconut suntan oil (for the smell of summer), Put on a Beach Boys CD, blow up a beach ball to toss and pretend it's hot out. It's silly, but it can take the edge out of the winter blues.
6. Make a snowman and snowwoman.
7. Go ice skating.
8. Make angels in the snow.
9. Bundle up and go someplace to watch the sun set over a silhouette of bare trees. As the sun goes down, watch them appear black and strikingly beautiful against the sky.
10. Go to a cappuccino bar, drink decaf and get to know one another.
11. Go sleigh riding.
12. Go for a walk in the snow and catch snow flakes on your tongue.
13. End a winter walk with hot chocolate and mini marshmallows.
14. Go to an arcade.
15. Rent a movie and pop some corn.
16. Rent and watch the video "It's a Wonderful Life!"
17. Assemble a really challenging puzzle.
18. Play board games.
19. Take a night-time walk to look at your neighbours holiday decorations and lights.
20. Go skiing -- downhill or cross-country.
Spring Ideas
1. Go wild-flower hunting. Pick your date a bouquet of wild-flowers. Put some in his/her hair.
2. Go for a walk in the park together.
3. Plant a window garden together.
4. Skip stones on a lake.
5. Have a picnic.
6. Go horseback riding.
7. Go on a hike.
8. Hire a professional guide and go rock climbing.
9. Go on a hot air balloon ride.
10. Go to the zoo to see the new baby animals that were born this spring.
11. Go for a walk in the rain (an umbrella is optional) and sing "Singing in the Rain!" really loudly.
12. Rent a bicycle built for two.
13. Go to a comedy club.
14. Look in your local paper for free or inexpensive concerts, shows and fairs.
15. Go to a park and play on the swings.
16. Play tennis.
Summer Ideas
1. Go to the top of a very tall building to watch the sun go down.
2. Jump through sprinklers together.
3. Go star gazing. Name a star for your date.
4. Lie on the grass and watch clouds. Use your imagination and talk about what you see in the clouds.
5. Go to an amusement park, go on scary rides and eat cotton candy.
6. Go rafting or canoeing or tubing (using a truck inner tube).
7. Walk on the beach. Bury each other in the sand.
8. Visit a boardwalk or carnival and play games.
9. Get up really early and meet to watch the sun rise -- then go for breakfast at a diner.
10. Run in a 5 K race together.
11. Do a walk-a-thon (for some cause you care about) together.
12. Go fishing.
13. Write a message and tie it to a balloon (or send it off in a bottle). Ask whoever finds it to mail you the message and tell you where they found it.
14. Get a group together and go camping.
15. Make home made ice-cream!
16. Watch a Little League game and cheer like you're watching the pros.
Fall Ideas
1. Decorate the house for Halloween or Thanksgiving.
2. Carve pumpkins.
3. Go apple picking and make an apple pie with the apples.
4. Go in-line skating.
5. Make a scarecrow together.
6. Go bike riding.
7. Get a big old barrel, water, and apples and invite a group of friends to dunk for apples. Have a camera available. There will be great shots!
8. Go to a flea market. Find the silliest thing for sale.
9. Go to a historic site. Try to talk like people from that period of time.
10. Go to a football game and cheer for the underdog, or for your home team.
Some New Issues About The Question Of The Online Dating Safety
We have already written some times about the most important rules of your online dating safety. But as you know, you can not be too careful, that's why such problems can be described more and more. Though there is a lot of information in the Internet, the only thing you must remember every time you enter the world wide web is that nobody will protect you better than you. Sure, all dating sites usually provide a thoughtful reasonable policy to protect their clients - but it can be effective only in the case when all the clients know the potential danger of their openness and sincerity towards some people, who misuse dating services and their functions. As for example, friends - we often live in apartment communities where the neighbour is as much a stranger as the man in the street. And now combine this with long working hours, stressful careers, busy diaries and the need for rest and recuperation and there are far fewer outlets for dating agencies than before. Indeed many would argue that the modern dating agency is in fact the workplace first and foremost with the after work bar a close second.
Always let them come to you, don't chase via email
Block anyone who annoys you instantly – and communicate just with persons you like
Use the best photo you can find
Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines
Remain aloof and let yourself be chased
Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt - it is a general rule, not just concerned about your safety
Never provide your true email or phone - when you start dating online, register a new e-mail, there are a lot of free email services in the Internet, so, it is not a problem to have hundreds of emails
Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn
Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy as well as enigmatic
Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best
Do not assume the man you are talking to is destitute or sad
Never ever reply to emails at weekends, wait until a weekday
Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile - it is the thing you should prove it in the bed, not in the words
If you don't want to date married men spell it out in your profile
A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored
Make sure your humour levels come across in text
Do not chat to hundreds of women/men at once, the delay in replying is a dead giveaway it won't amuse them
Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out
Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results
Use an online service that allows you to post more than one photo for free
Do not use completely free agencies as you often don't get top quality services because they are expensive to run
Do find an online agency that offers email and messaging that are onsite
Do provide your correct mailing address when registering to receive the best facilities
Don't use agencies that insist on sending emails to your own home email inbox from site members
Your Nose Could Be The Best Compass While Seeking Your Soulmate
Everybody knows about love from the first look. That's how we choose our soulmate, looking at his appearance, mimicry, gestures. We also can hear his or her talking — and fall in love with the voice. But one of the dating agencies offered something revolutionary — a matchmaking by smell. According to the founders of that dating site, they can find you a partner who's heaven scent - forget speed dating or blind dates. When it comes to meeting the man of your dreams, the answer could lie no further than the end of your nose. A dating website claims the key to a finding a perfect match lies in body odour, with women preferring men who smell very differently to themselves, and vice versa. For £1,000 they will analyse a person's DNA for genes linked to the smell of sweat and then provide them with a list of potential suitors with different body odour to their own. The service, advertised as the first "to find matches who share chemical attraction with each other", is based around a series of scientific studies which have shown that opposites really do attract. Research shows that our sweat contains genes linked to the immune system and our ability to fight off disease. The more different these major histocompatibility, or MHC, genes are to your own, the more pleasant you find a person - and their sweat. It is thought the phenomenon evolved to prevent us unintentionally mating with relatives - or others who are genetically similar to us. It also ensures that any children a couple have will have broad immunity against disease. Those who sign up to that dating service are asked to provide details about themselves, their interests and the sort of person they would like to meet. Subscribers also asked to provide a sample of cells swabbed from the inside of their cheeks. DNA from the cells is then analysed in the lab for the MHC genes, and the results are compared with that of other subscribers. True love is not the only potential benefit, with the company saying chemically-matched couples will have more satisfying sex lives and be less inclined to cheat. The latter claim is based on a recent study showing that when couples share very similar MHC genes, the woman is more likely to be sexually dissatisfied with their partner, have a roving eye - and even an affair. [From online dating post]
The Mamma's Boy This guy probably lives with his mother, if not close enough for her to pop in for tea (every night). She will have helped him pick out his decor and there will be photos of her all over his apartment. He goes for Sunday dinner and has several cartons of homemade meals in the refrigerator that mom made for him. Why you should stay away: You will never live up to his mother and although he will love and cherish you forever he will take his mother's side every time. How to get rid of him: Tell him you don't like his mother. The Body BuilderThis guy will have photos of himself on every available space, along with his own home gym (even though he has a life time membership at the swanky one in town). He has all the latest gadgets and home entertainment systems. Why you should stay away: You will never see him as he is always down at the gym. He will spend more time in the bathroom then you. He collects trophies and likes one hanging off his arm. How to get rid of him: Tell him to give up the gym for you. The Womanizer This guy will treat you like a princess and is the perfect lover. He dresses well and is out to impress and impress he will (every woman he comes in contact with). He will, of course, have trouble remembering your name, with all the women he has on the go. Why You should stay away: His excuses for not showing up are getting more pathetic. You will have to compete with his phone as he has so many calls to return and text messages to answer. How to get rid of him: Tell him, "I use to be a man." The Workaholic This man is going places, but will he be taking you with him? He is smartly dressed, has great taste in decor and eats at the finest restaurants. However, his work will always come first. Why you should stay away: You have to make an appointment to see him. He will take you to elegant dinner parties then leave you with strangers while he talks shop. How to get rid of him: Tell him, "I’m taking a year off to travel. Do you want to come?" Your College LecturerHe is probably older than you, more worldly and gets you a good grade. Why you should stay away: If anyone found out about you, they would say you slept your way to better grades. Plus, he would lose his job and possibly his teaching position. How to get rid of him: Tell him somebody is blackmailing you and if you don’t stop seeing him, they are going to report you. Of course, there are exceptions. For example, if "the body builder" knows how to give you the same type of attention he gives his body then this could potentially be a good thing (as long as you can handle other women trying to pick up on him). And if you are a workaholic that has no plans of changing then being in a relationship with another workaholic will allow the two of you to focus more on your careers while hopefully having some focus left for each other. If "mamma's boy" mom loves you and you can get the same focus from the man as his mom gives then just maybe... it's a stretch. Remember, it's doubtful any of these men will change so it's best not to try and change them. A good approach to take in wanting out of one of these relationships is to be honest. This may gain more respect. Tell "mamma's boy" that he's too focused on his mom. Tell the womanizer that you only have room in your life for a man that only has room for you. It's doubtful that they'll change, but at least they'll know the real reason you don't want to pursue a relationship.
There is a saying that "you never get a second chance to make a good first impression." With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last. 1. Take a Bath or ShowerOne of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days. It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance. 2. Arrive on TimeWhatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late. 3. Give Her a Thoughtful GiftA woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman before a first date that came from phone conversations, emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let's say that the woman really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf sets - a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a great first date gift. For a generic thoughtful gift, buy a chocolate rose. That's always appropriate without being overboard. 4. Be a GentlemanHold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic. 5. Compliment Her The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4 for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real. 6. Listen to Her and Ask QuestionsNobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself. 7. Prepare for the ConversationThe last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her. 8. Pay for the DateIt's virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of "chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it. 9. The Goodnight Kiss Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate. 10. I'll Call YouOnly tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck. Or you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know.
Online dating is so widely accepted now that many people let down their guard when it comes to communicating and meeting others. Don't let this happen to you. Here are four ways to protect your identity and be safer until the time is right: 1) Use an anonymous email account and make sure your full name isn't in the FROM area of emails (edit your account and change the name so that your name doesnt show on emails you send). This should be an account you created and use only for online dating. 2) There are several companies, like MyPrivateLine, that give you a temporary phone number that can't be traced. Home phone numbers can easily be traced to an address using Google and cell phone numbers can be easily traced to an address using a paid service. 3) Meet for the first time in a public place. Make sure a friend knows where you are at and who you are with. 4) Once you get to know someone better, consider doing a background check ($50+) on the person just for your own piece of mind. Pledge to always stay safe and never let your guard down. Listen to your gut instincts. Online dating is an awesome way to meet new, fun, and exciting people. Keeping safe will help keep you away from the few that try and give online dating a bad name.
Protect Yourself Against Online Relationship Scams
Searching for romance over the Internet has become more and more popular over the years. Online dating is nearly a billion dollar industry and scammers are cashing in on the trend, taking advantage of unsuspecting men and women. Every day, scammers target hundreds of online daters, and many have fallen prey to scams that cost online daters, on average, of more than $3,000. They do it by posing as women overseas and send you a note through an online dating service. They pretend to be interested in you and provide their "email address" so that you can continue communicating offline. Scammers use email to try and build an online relationship with you and they eventually profess their love. Once you do too, the scam kicks into high gear. An "emergency" (mother hospitalized, surgery needed) suddenly arises and they ask for money. Or they say they want to meet you, but need money to apply for a VISA to come see you. Little does the victim know that he's talking to professional con artists and has likely been communicating with another man, not a woman! The scams can get quite complex, including men hiring a girl to call you and pose as your online love interest. You can avoid being a victim of online relationship scams by taking note of these warning signs: Being Asked for MoneyThis is the most telltale sign of a scam. No matter what you think or what other people might say, it just isn’t a normal behavior to ask for money if you've never met someone in person. Scammers are quite creative – they will ask you to help with airfare so they can come and visit, cash a check, help out with an emergency for you to send a money order and so on. Some will ask for money fairly quick and others will show patience while trying to build a relationship with you, getting you to fall for the imaginary person in the profile they set up. Initiating First ContactScammers virtually always are the first to initiate contact with you. If you get an email (or wink) from someone overseas, it's best not to respond. Wanting to Communicate via EmailAn online scammer will want to take your communications to email as soon as possible because they know their profile may soon be deleted when an online dating service notices their pattern of emailing people. So many times in the very first or second email they will give you an email address and ask you to email them. Fake PicturesSome scammers will cut or scan photos from magazines. Trust your instincts. If you feel the photo is suspicious, chances are it’s probably a fake. But that's not always the case, as many scammers will actually steal someone else's photo and post it. Photos are usually of a very beautiful woman. Don't fall for it. Unwillingness to Share InformationThe person you are talking to showers you with attention and he seems to be overly interested in everything about you, yet doesn’t share a lot of information about themselves. If they are avoiding your questions like a seasoned politician, then run.. Messages VaryIf you are exchanging emails with someone overseas, watch out for inconsistencies like a variation in the style of the email, language differences, repetitive statements, etc.. The scammer who initiated the communication with you may not always be the same one that carries it through. If something doesn't seem right about the emails you are receiving, then its not right. Besides looking out for red flags you can take other measures to further protect yourself: 1) Be the one always initiating communication via online dating services. 2) Guard your privacy. 3) Communicate with people locally, not overseas. 4) Trust your gut instinct from the start. 5) Never reply to communications from someone who sends you a note and immediately includes their email address for you to continue the communication. Many people have fallen prey to online relationship scams. In one case, two men showed up at the same airport to meet a girl from overseas that they had sent money to for her "flight". Both were left holding flowers at the airport staring at each other. They had apparently been duped by the same scammer. While it is true that there are many people who find life partners over the Internet, it is best to always be on your guard when using online dating services. Don't get scammed!
How to Online Date - Tips For Writing A Seductive First Email
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Guys... Why don't hot girls ever email you back? This article will teach you some advanced techniques to capture her attention and make a connection with her. You'll be able to craft emails that will leave her *needing* to know more about who you are.
Analyze the bad emails she gets 50 times a day and see why they don't work.
Hot women online dating get a ton of emails from guys every day. Let's start by looking at the average email a guy sends a girl on an online dating website and why it doesn't work. I'm not accusing you of writing one of these, but just in case you *might* have, take a quick look. It goes something like:
"Hi, I saw your profile and you are really cute! I like your hat in that picture, it's really nice, where did you get it? Anyway, come take a look at my profile and if you like what you see, email me!"
This email can be broken down into three parts. Bad. Badder. Baddererest.
Sentence 1: Bad The last thing a hot girl who gets 50 emails a day wants to read is another average guy saying another average thing. Also, ban "cute" from your vocabulary. Cute is so bland and overused, it barely has any meaning to women anymore. Besides, women want to be beautiful. Not cute. Ask them!
Sentence 2: Worse "I like your hat" is a good example of the bad online dating advice given out by MSN and Yahoo online dating "experts" (COUGH). They say "find something in her profile or photo and ask her about it." That's great if you want to be her friend, but it doesn't make any kind of connection, so forget it. I'll tell you what to ask about in a minute when I'm done having my fun tearing apart this bad email.
Sentence 3: Worst Just a well educated guess, but I'd say 80% of bad emails to girls end with "come take a look at my profile and if you like what you see, email me." What's wrong with that? First, everyone does it. Second, you need to end your email with a command, not a suggestion! Salesmen and marketers call it a "call to action", like "BUY NOW!" You don't need to go that heavy, but realistically, anything commanding and interesting is better than a passive "if you like what you see..." You'd be better off ending it with "rabid monkeys are eating my fingers as I type, email me back or they'll finish me off!" Actually, I kind of like that one. Feel free to try it out.
Thus ends our "Anatomy of a Bad Email" lesson... Step2STEP 2: Basics of a good email
The most important online dating tip I can give you is... BE INTERESTING! Most guys really do write the same boring email over and over. If you really want to blow her away, and grab her attention from the pack, you need to get her attention by being interesting and unique, and then create a connection with her.
The easiest way to get her attention is to have a sense of humor and one of the strongest ways to build a connection with her is by being insightful. You are about to learn both. Step3Step 3: How to have a sense of humor...
There are lots of ways of showing a sense of humor in an email, but this is a simple technique that anyone can do. First, read her profile up and down, back and forth. Pick out something that is completely unique to this girl, and ignore all the stuff she's written that you've seen already in dozens of other women's dating profiles.
For example, she says, "I'm smart, funny, unique, love baseball, study medicine, and also work on a chicken farm."
Forget everything but the chicken farm. The chicken farm makes her unique! Try to let your brain come up with the craziest, funniest observations you can. You might write something like:
"A chicken farm? I love chickens! We'd be the perfect couple... You could poach extra chickens from work and I could fence them on the chicken black market. Eventually we could build up a nest egg and flee the coup to sunny Chichen Itza!"
Ok, that's a bad set of puns, even for me. But you get the humor in it and she will too. You are touching on what makes her unique, the little point that most guys ignore in order to go for the easy and mundane stuff like "I like your hat." Picking out the unique points alone will get her attention, and having a sense of humor about them will win her over. Step4Step 4: How to be insightful
Guys don't really read profiles. Sure, we skim them over a couple times and look for points to talk about, but we don't usually read between the lines. We don't really look for the depth of her words, the subtext of what she is really saying... what she is really asking for. What am I talking about? Let's go right to an example.
Here's a section of a woman's profile: "I've been here before, perhaps too many times, each time a little more jaded. If only we could be more honest with each other, the world would be a better place. I'm looking for a guy who is kind, faithful, and sincere."
Is she saying she is looking for a kind, faithful, sincere guy? Only on the surface. What she is really telling us is...
"I've been hurt by men."
How did I get that out of the above paragraph? Re-read what she's saying: she's come back time after time, even more jaded, which means she's gone through numerous relationships, each of them having ended badly. She's wishing for more honesty, which means she's faced a lot of deceit. And she's looking for a guy who is kind, faithful and sincere, which heavily suggests that she knows what she wants because she's done time with a lot of guys who have been unkind, unfaithful, and insincere to her.
So, I see this profile and I see a girl who has been hurt, and I know that she will respond to a guy who is kind, faithful and sincere? So is that how I present myself?
*NO!*
I'm going to do even better. There's a guy that she'll respond to way more readily than the above guy... a guy who UNDERSTANDS HER! Forget everything about what women say they want on the surface! Deep down... they want to be understood (we all do really). Being a guy who understands who she really is and sympathizes with her is much more powerful and rare.
To address that, I would write something like: "I read your profile and couldn't help but feel a twinge of sadness at your words. We all seek happiness in life, but disappointment certainly seems to find its way in often enough. Like you, I simply seek a bright sunny day in a cloudy world."
I don't confront her issues directly of course, a subtle brush is all it takes to get her attention and let her know that the potential is there. This would certainly get her attention away from the guys who write "I'm sincere, honest, and faithful." You know... the same guys that hurt her in the past? Step5Step 5: Wrap it up
So you've grabbed her attention with humor, then you let her know that you are an intelligent, insightful guy that is really paying attention to her. You've got her attention. Now you just need to wrap it up and drive her towards your profile (if you are simply on a classified site like Craigslist, you will want to add more details about yourself).
There are lots of great ways to wrap up your email to her. A simple and effective one is to create a positive image of the two of you together, and command her reply.
For example: "Picture this... You and I walking in the park, playing catch or just kicking around with a couple of ice creams on a sunny Saturday... If that's the way you love to spend a lazy weekend, we'll get along famously. My email is at the bottom, you know what to do!"
Now simply wrap those three things together... in your own words of course... and start emailing girls. And wait, one more critical thing... Always include your picture! Having a great photo is a different article, but it's something you absolutely must do.
What... you thought it would be as simple as writing "Hey baby, what's up?" :) Cheers and happy dating!
Online Dating is a very popular way to meet people and to date. There are, however, dangers to online dating. Creating a safe profile is one of the keys to staying safe.
Do not put your contact information in your profile such as your email, phone number or address. If you need to talk to someone online try to use a messaging tool such as MSN, Yahoo, or AOL. Remember, it's safer to email and chat through the dating site. Some scammers are more willing to chat on Yahoo or MSN since there's no monitor for them. You can become a member for free here to check more detailed tips for this.
If you have children do not talk about your children in your profile. Although people may be interested to know if you have kids or not, it is not wise to tell anyone about your kids until you feel comfortable with the person.
When posting a picture of yourself remember that the people looking at that picture will judge you on it. Select the picture you think works well for what you want to get out of online dating. Load pictures that you think may appeal to the kind of people you want to meet.
Write a smart headline: Stay away from overused catch phrases or trite one-liners. Think about what makes you unique. Your headline can be about you or about who you are seeking. Stay away from negative or apathetic headlines, "I'm lonely," "Pick me" or "Blah, blah, blah," for example. Think of something that is important to you to share with a mate and then use a headline based around that (art, music, tennis, travel).
Use Pictures Wisely: For your main photo, use a clear picture that shows your face. You can include other candid shots in your additional photos that show full length, or close-up in a variety of situations.
Use recent photos and update them once every couple of weeks. We are usually our own worst critic so enlist some friends to help pick the most flattering pictures for your profile.
Keep It Positive: Information about bad break-ups, bitterness, and hostility are a sure way to get passed by. It might be a sign that you aren't ready for a new relationship.
Keep your profile focused on you, not on a laundry list of expectations. What do you like to do? What things are important to you in life? Don't mention exes and avoid bragging or focusing only on your career.
Be Honest About Who You Are: If you are funny by nature, write funny. If you aren't, then don't. Try to make your real personality come through in your writing. Don't pretend to have interests just to impress someone. If you love listening to 80's music, say so. On the Internet, you are never alone.
Pretend It's a Cover Letter: Just because it is personal business doesn't mean you can forgo spell check and punctuation. Proofread your profile and ask other people's opinions on it. Your friends will tell you whether or not it sounds like you.
There's a fine line between too much and not enough when it comes to dating profiles. That goes for both information and word counts. Several short paragraphs will do more for you than two sentences. Likewise, no one wants to wade through the first three chapters of your biography online either.
Online dating is now mainstream with its popularity growing daily. So, what are you waiting for? Find Mr. or Mrs. Right online with these tips.
Yahoo Personals and Match.com are the largest online dating sites with the most members. Consider joining one of these online communities if you do not have specail requirements of your match.
If you have a particular interest, there are many niche online dating services for you. For example, if you want to meet rich and wealthy men or beautiful woman and celebrities, try millionairecupid.com or millionairematch.com since they are the most reputable millionaire club in the dating inudstry.
Once you've found a dating service you like, use an attention-grabbing headline and write an upbeat, positive profile. Make it stand out by writing interesting things about yourself and the kind of person you're looking for. Leave all negativity and inappropriate or offensive writing out.
Be realistic. If you are a 60-year-old man and you write that you are looking for women 20 to 40, you are not likely to attract many dates. It's OK to have specific ideas in mind of what you're looking for, but keep it open-minded and realistic.
Post great pictures of yourself. These should be recent (within a year) and be clear, non-distracting shots. Do not post pictures that have other people in them, especially members of the opposite sex. Only post photos that you have you in them. Posting a picture of just your dog will not help the reader know if he or she is attracted to you.
Be honest in your essay. Lying about your age means you are starting off the relationship with a lie. It's not necessary to divulge everything about yourself but don't stretch the truth. When you meet potential dates, they will find out the truth anyway.
If you are having a lot of trouble writing your essay or coming up with a good headline, consider enlisting the help of a professional writer.
The Internet, email, chat rooms and cell phones all help to make long distance relationships much more common these days. But they don't make long distance dating easy, by any means. Here are some tips to help make your relationship work.
Make up your mind to commit to the relationship completely. Long distance relationships are hard enough. They're pretty well impossible if you're indifferent about the person on the other end of the phone line.
Set a date for the next time you will see your partner. If you know when you're next going to see each other, it will make the time in between seem that much more bearable.
Make any necessary arrangements for the trip, such as booking time off work, buying bus or plane tickets.
Try to have some form of contact most days. Even if you just send a text message to let him know you're thinking of him, it will help you both feel more connected.
Every now and then, go the extra mile. Write her a letter or send a card. Even make up a parcel of small gifts or newspaper articles from your city paper to remind her that you're thinking of her even from miles and miles away.
Send some fun emails to each other. Fill out and forward an email questionnaire about yourself, and get him to do the same in return. It helps you find out more about each other in a relaxed way.
Try communicating by instant messenger. You can almost have a proper conversation and it's free.
Consider investing in a web cam, if you don't already have one. It allows you to see each other and can help you to feel like you are almost in the same room.
If you live in different countries, research the cheapest ways to communicate by phone. International phone cards may be a good way to call, or there are a number of Internet phone packages.
Recruit friends to help you. They may find it hard to be supportive if they have never met your loved one, so consider encouraging them to email her or speak to her on the phone when she calls you.
Have you ever thought, "My boyfriend and I make a great couple. He says he's happy. So, why hasn't he proposed?" Well, rest assured, you're not alone. The question may simply boil down to whether or not he's ready. How can you tell? On The Early Show Tuesday, Cosmopolitan magazine (www.cosmopolitan.com) Editor in Chief Kate White told substitute co-anchor Maggie Rodriguez guys "have to be in the marriage mindset. We asked a top expert, who said the equation is really 49 percent the right girl and 51 percent their being ready, and if they're not ready, they're not gonna do it. In fact, often a guy, once he's in the mindset, he's more apt to meet the right girl then. It's really a driving force with men." White says there are five things women can look for to tell if a guy is ready to take the plunge: He has to be capable of love: "There's falling in love," White explained. "That's that giddy feeling, and then there's loving. Loving means he's gotta be ready to connect with you and connect with you through the infatuation phase. If he's not, he's not willing to put you first and make little sacrifices. That's a sign he's not there yet." Rodriguez said that's "also an argument for not getting hitched right away when you're just falling in love." He's able to accept imperfections: "Sometimes, if they're not ready, their expectations are too high," White observed. "Not only will a guy not accept your flaws, but he may even look for flaws and blow them out of proportion in order to put distance there. So, if a guy's too critical, that's often a sign he isn't ready." "In many cases," Rodriguez added, "that's more about him than you. You shouldn't take that personally." "You can't," White agreed. He has to believe in commitment: "There are always going to be negative aspects in a relationship," White noted. "And, someone who's ready to commit is gonna understand that you've gotta work those through and do the work. And he's not gonna shut down when there's trouble. He's gonna be willing, even as much as guys hate to discuss relationships, he's gonna be winning to talk it through with you." He's positive he can be the man. He wants to be the provider: "Guys need to get their ducks in a row when it's time to commit, much more-so than women," White said. "He may feel, 'I've got to be at a certain point in my career.' Almost half of all men want to be able to buy a house before they get married. So, if those factors aren't lined up for him, he's not gonna be able to focus and he's gonna be resistant, where women often can get beyond that sort of stuff." Does White think it's worth sticking it out if your guy is on that path? "If you really sense he's into you," she replied, "then I think it's really worth it to ride out … where he is, and help him get to that point, whether it's a career point or it's a money point." He's tired of playing around: "They do end up," White commented, "with what you might call 'fling fatigue.' Often, that's when they start to see their guy friends fall by the wayside and get married. Most men, most mature people do end up at a point where they don't want to play the field anymore. They're just tired of it. It loses its enchantment." "And maybe they might wind up proposing to whoever they happen to be with at that time," Rodriguez said, "which is so frustrating for the girlfriend before!" "Sometimes," White concurred, "you're the one who's in the right place at the wrong time with him, and the other girl's wondering. 'What did I do wrong?' " On occasion, White said, it's OK to give the guy an ultimatum. "Sometimes," she explained, "it's superficial stuff. And so -- it might be because the timing's not exactly right for him. Or it could be that he's stuck on some minor problem with you. Or he's a chronic procrastinator. And in those cases, an ultimatum, not a threat, but something that makes it about you (is alright, such as), 'Look, I'm ready to go to the next level. The next stage. I want to go with you.' And perhaps you give him two months to say that you need to know by then." And, if there's still no proposal at that pint? Then, White said, you have to "put your money where your mouth is."
she really gets to know me. What should I do?Just e-mail her and say: “OK, why don't we hook up in Vegas and get married? This way we'll know each other well enough for you to want to meet me. Or, we could just get together in a public place in the middle of the day, in broad daylight, with a hundred people around, and we can talk over a cup of tea.”I personally like the Vegas idea or something equally funny. Then get her phone number and call her up. This has a soothing effect in these types of situations.Make sure that when you talk to her you say things like, "Let's meet for a cup of tea for 20 minutes... this way if you're really freaky I can escape with minimal time wasted."This approach is funny, and puts the idea in her head that YOU'RE the one who's picky and selective.
What if I’m a guy looking for a serious relationship?Well, as much as I avoid "relationship" questions, I just have to comment on this one.First of all, I believe that MOST guys would prefer to be in a relationship with a great woman than to be single. The problem is that amazing women are as rare as amazing men.If you REALLY want to get a woman attached to you, then you might want to try a paradoxical move and stop looking for a relationship. If you communicate that you want a relationship, a woman’s natural response is to play Hard To Get.If YOU play Hard To Get and HOLD OFF on showing your interest in a "relationship," you'll find that the woman will pursue the relationship with YOU.Think about it.
What advice do you have about making eye contact with a woman?Eye contact is VERY powerful.If you make eye contact with a woman, I recommend that you keep it until SHE looks away. By the way, this is a great exercise. Just go out and make eye contact with as many women as you can and keep it until they look away.Just remember not to look away because you're nervous or afraid. Women can detect weakness very quickly, and they’ll turn off like a light switch when they do.If you want to "check women out," just make sure you don't look like a loser that has no life. And don’t look like you’re planning to use the mental images that you're taking for future solo fantasy role play.Don't look desperate.What to do when women say “Why don’t you give me your number?”
she really gets to know me. What should I do?Just e-mail her and say: “OK, why don't we hook up in Vegas and get married? This way we'll know each other well enough for you to want to meet me. Or, we could just get together in a public place in the middle of the day, in broad daylight, with a hundred people around, and we can talk over a cup of tea.”I personally like the Vegas idea or something equally funny. Then get her phone number and call her up. This has a soothing effect in these types of situations.Make sure that when you talk to her you say things like, "Let's meet for a cup of tea for 20 minutes... this way if you're really freaky I can escape with minimal time wasted."This approach is funny, and puts the idea in her head that YOU'RE the one who's picky and selective.
What if I’m a guy looking for a serious relationship?Well, as much as I avoid "relationship" questions, I just have to comment on this one.First of all, I believe that MOST guys would prefer to be in a relationship with a great woman than to be single. The problem is that amazing women are as rare as amazing men.If you REALLY want to get a woman attached to you, then you might want to try a paradoxical move and stop looking for a relationship. If you communicate that you want a relationship, a woman’s natural response is to play Hard To Get.If YOU play Hard To Get and HOLD OFF on showing your interest in a "relationship," you'll find that the woman will pursue the relationship with YOU.Think about it.
What advice do you have about making eye contact with a woman?Eye contact is VERY powerful.If you make eye contact with a woman, I recommend that you keep it until SHE looks away. By the way, this is a great exercise. Just go out and make eye contact with as many women as you can and keep it until they look away.Just remember not to look away because you're nervous or afraid. Women can detect weakness very quickly, and they’ll turn off like a light switch when they do.If you want to "check women out," just make sure you don't look like a loser that has no life. And don’t look like you’re planning to use the mental images that you're taking for future solo fantasy role play.Don't look desperate.What to do when women say “Why don’t you give me your number?”
